Today’s guest blogger is Ted Moreno, success performance coach and certified hypnotherapist.
One of my favorite movie quotes comes from “Unforgiven” starring Clint Eastwood.
William Munny (Eastwood), is a former murderer and outlaw. He’s got his shotgun aimed at the sadistic town sheriff, on the ground, already shot.
The sheriff begs “I don’t deserve this. I was building a house. ”
Munny replies “Deserve’s got nothin’ to do with it.”
You can probably guess what happens next, if you know anything about Clint Eastwood films.
It’s a harsh reality. What you feel you deserve has little to do with what you actually get.
Because what you feel you deserve is only that: what you feel.
And what you think and feel isn’t truth. It’s just what you think and feel.
There were many times I didn’t feel like writing my book. Or editing it. Or re-writing parts that needed it. But I had made a commitment to my mastermind group to get it done by a certain date. The idea of not meeting the deadline seemed akin to not getting up in the middle of the night to see what my six year old was crying about.
It’s easy to be ruled by what you feel you deserve, or like, or don’t like about what you have to do. But how you feel’s got nothing to do with it.
It’s about what you are committed to.
When you have a powerful commitment, such as to your child, it exists independent of how you feel, what you like or want, or what you deserve.
People who consistently take action because of the strength of their commitments are called Extraordinary.
Maybe you have no interest being extraordinary.
But if you are reading this, I’m pretty sure you’re not committed to being powerless.
Because that’s how we feel when we are unable or unwilling to take action and honor our commitments and our word.
Up until 2003, the only thing I was committed to was not committing to anything. Someone told me “Ted, you don’t have a lot to hang your hat on.” Ouch. Not only did I feel powerless, I felt downright crappy…
But from 2003 to 2008:
- I went back to school
- Got married
- Started a business
- Had two kids
- Bought a house
- Started teaching a class
- A couple of year later I wrote a book.
What happened in those five years? Simple: I made some commitments with the intention of keeping them.
Do you have commitments that you are not living up to or that you know you should make?
What would you have to do to make them in a way that inspires you and leaves you feeling powerful and unstoppable?
Get a coach. Join a mastermind group. Figure it out. Then choose your commitments powerfully and wisely.
Because when all is said and done, and it’s time for an accounting of your life, how you felt or what you thought you deserved will have nothing to do with it.
It will be what you did because of your commitments that count.
Ted A. Moreno
Success Performance Coach
Certified Hypnotherapist
www.tedmoreno.com
626.826.0612
From Marlene: Ted’s work is extremely effective. He listens carefully, offers appropriate feedback and suggestions that are helpful in getting to the heart of the situation. He is extremely perceptive, kind and understanding. If you think hypnotherapy might work for you . . . Ted’s your guy.
