{"id":12212,"date":"2022-11-17T06:53:00","date_gmt":"2022-11-17T13:53:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/thewritespot.us\/marlenecullenblog\/?p=12212"},"modified":"2022-11-15T12:55:37","modified_gmt":"2022-11-15T19:55:37","slug":"presence-and-connection","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/thewritespot.us\/marlenecullenblog\/presence-and-connection\/","title":{"rendered":"Presence and Connection"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

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Guest Blogger Dr. Doreen Downing talks about public speaking, especially for writers.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As a writer, you may be able to put words on a page, but \u2026 do you have the confident voice to access your words when you must speak in public?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you don\u2019t feel confident, and if you feel anxiety, doubt yourself, hold yourself back, then what you write won\u2019t reach as many ears or as many hearts as you\u2019d like.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I ask my clients what holds them back from feeling at ease speaking about their work, the answer is always fear.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And, bottom line, it\u2019s the fear of being judged.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s true that a judge could be sitting in the audience, listening for your mistakes, and counting your um\u2019s, but more likely than not, the judge that criticizes you the most is perched right inside your own head.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In fact, you could be your own worst critic.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ask yourself now to listen to what you say about public speaking. Note if you hear a voice telling you something like this\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2026 You are going to forget what you have to say, go blank, and mess up\u2026 <\/em>or<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2026 Your nerves are going to show, and everyone will notice.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I know I can\u2019t tell you to simply disregard the thoughts in your head.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But I can suggest a way that will lead you to the amazing voice that comes from your true self, the Essence of who you are.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And once you learn how to drop down and tap into the strength that comes from your Essence, you will be able to speak with a natural confidence.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I\u2019ve taken this inner journey to find my true voice, and I wrote about it in my book, \u201cThe 7 Secrets to Essential Speaking: Find Your Voice, Change Your Life.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As an author, I know what it takes to find my words and put them on a blank page, but I also know what it takes to find my words and share them in public, on podcasts, radio shows, videos, book events, and conferences.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you see public speaking as an avenue that will help you bring your passion out into the world, then you\u2019ll want to make sure you have the confidence to be in the spotlight.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Where do you find this confidence? The answer lies within you. In other words, confidence is an \u201cinside job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Going within means you must first face your fears and explore their roots. In early childhood, were you welcomed and celebrated by your family? Did you get their applause when you danced in front of them?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even if you had favorable reactions as a child, other influences outside of family dynamics that shape your self-confidence include cultural messages, personality, trauma, and experiences during your school years, with peers and with teachers.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once you\u2019ve uncovered the root cause of your fear, you\u2019ll feel the relief that comes with knowing why it\u2019s been so difficult to control your nerves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And, this is the moment where the transformational journey of \u201cfear to freedom\u201d really begins. You realize your authentic voice has been buried underneath your fears. Now you are ready to unlock this voice so you can speak in public and share whatever you have said in your writing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Two of the secrets I reveal in my book, Presence and Connection, are keys to speaking with ease.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

With Presence, the idea is that when you are fully present in the moment, you are not thinking about negative speaking experiences from the past, nor dwelling on the future with its possibility of failure or disapproval. You are unafraid and more self-assured.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Likewise, with Connection, you may already be comfortable speaking one-to-one which makes this natural ability so powerful when you apply it to a group. Being with and speaking directly to one person at a time creates a genuine connection with an entire group.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In addition to guidance and instruction on how to be more Present and Connected, you\u2019ll find my book takes you beyond scripts and performance techniques to connect to your authentic voice.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are ready to overcome anxiety and empower yourself to speak in front of groups, the one step you can take right now is to download the 7 Secrets to Fearless Speaking<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dr. Doreen Downing<\/a><\/strong> is a Psychologist, Author, Keynote Speaker, and Host of the Find Your Voice, Change Your Life Podcast.<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

She once suffered from stage fright. In facing this debilitating condition, she discovered a unique and simple way to connect to one\u2019s authentic voice, the very Essence of who we are.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Her book, \u201cThe 7 Secrets to Essential Speaking,\u201d <\/a>has become an instrument for people to tap into their inner strength and speak with confidence.\u00a0<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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