‘Twas the night before the party and all through the house, everyone was hurrying with too much to do, even the mouse!
Sound familiar? I was frustrated with too much scurrying before I learned strategies about how to manage holiday stress. As I gathered ideas, I felt calm and at peace. Let’s create an enjoyable holiday season. It does involve list making. So get some paper and a pen. These lists will help you focus on making your holidays less stressful and more enjoyable.
The six key steps to reduce holiday stress are inventory, decide, accept, choose favorites, enlist and manage.
Take inventory. Make a list of all the extra activities you do during the holidays. Be sure to include baking, making crafts, decorating, cleaning, helping at church, attending parties, shopping, wrapping, making travel plans, driving around to see decorations and meeting guests at the airport.
Next: Go through your inventory list and cross out the activities that have little value to you, or that you don’t enjoy.
Decide what you value about the holidays. Make a list of what is important to you during the holidays. Take a look at what works for your family and what no longer has meaning.
Decide which activities are realistic and cross off the ones that are difficult to achieve. Decide which traditions are truly meaningful and which are merely habitual. Choose one activity you can skip this year. After the holidays, if it felt wrong, you can always reinstate that activity next year.
Acceptance will help you create a celebration that meets your unique needs. As you evaluate your list, look at what you don’t like about your holiday celebration. Decide if it’s changeable, or if you need to accept it. Sometimes compromise is an acceptable solution.
Choose favorites. Ask family members what they liked best about last year’s holiday season and what they would enjoy doing this year. Sometimes the simplest activities get the highest ratings. Try to pick one activity or food to please each person. Rather than making twenty different kinds of cookies, make only one or two favorites.
I used to think I had to have homemade gifts for everyone and participate in glittery crafts. When I admitted I don’t like craft-making, I felt lighter and more energetic to do the things I enjoy.
There is no one right way to celebrate. Take control of the celebration and shape it to conform to your wishes and values.
Enlist help from family members and friends. Show them your to-do lists and ask for help. We invited several families to our house last year for a holiday celebration. I absolutely needed help. I made a complete list of everything that had to be done, using such categories as furniture (rearranging), drinks (arranging glasses and chilling bottles), tables (setting up extra tables), cars (making room for guests’ cars), food (preparation and serving), miscellaneous and laundry (yes, I even included this on the to-do list). When family members saw all that had to be done, they were very willing to help.
Manage holiday stress by taking care of yourself. The obvious is to eat well, get enough rest, avoid sugar and alcohol. The not so obvious is to remember to release stress through gentle stretching, brisk walking, listening to soothing music, practicing yoga or whatever helps to de-stress and relax.
Many of these ideas are from Unplug the Christmas Machine, by Jo Robinson and Jean Coppock Staeheli.
The main components of a successful holiday season are to be aware and choose wisely.
Make conscious choices about how you want to celebrate the holidays. Decide what is important and what no longer works.
If we follow this plan, our new story could be, ‘Twas the night before the party and all through the house, everyone was sleeping peacefully, even the host and hostess.
Writing Prompt: Write a magical, whimsical, unrealistic, impractical, not-gonna-happen holiday scene.
Then: Write a practical holiday scene. . . using ideas from your lists: Take inventory, decide, accept, choose favorites, enlist and manage.
With new ways of thinking and some planning, you will create a holiday you can enjoy.
